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HEY, ANNIE.

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YOU SITTING WITH
HAROLD TONIGHT?

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YEAH.

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HI, DAD.

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DAD?

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<i>(MARGARET)</i>
<i>THE TELEVISION IS UPSETTING</i>
<i>YOUR DAD LATELY,</i>

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SO I TURNED ON
THE CLASSICAL MUSIC STATION.

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WHERE DID I PUT MY KEYS?

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<i>(ANNIE)</i>
<i>CAN YOU STAY HERE</i>
<i>WITH ME TONIGHT?</i>

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<i>I MEAN, IF YOU HAVE THE TIME?</i>

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I WON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO
IF SOMETHING GOES WRONG.

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WELL I WISH I COULD,
BUT I...

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<i>(ANNIE)</i>
<i>DANNY, PLEASE.</i>

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I DON'T LIKE TO ASK,
BUT I'M SCARED

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TO BE ALONE WITH HIM.

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<i>(DANNY)</i>
<i>OKAY.</i>
<i>I'LL MAKE A CALL.</i>

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<i>(ANNIE)</i>
<i>THANK YOU.</i>

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<i>(DANNY)</i>
<i>BUT YOU'RE GONNA HAVE</i>
<i>TO TELL YOUR MOTHER</i>

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<i>THAT YOU'RE UNCOMFORTABLE</i>
<i>TAKING CARE OF HIM.</i>

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HOW?

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AFTER ALL SHE'S BEEN THROUGH.

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I FOUND THEM.
[KEYS JINGLING]

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I'LL ONLY BE A FEW HOURS.

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I'LL BE BACK
BEFORE YOU KNOW IT.

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I'M ALL EARS.

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MY DAUGHTER'S SCARED
TO BE ALONE WITH HER FATHER.

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DEMENTIA'S MADE HAROLD
A HANDFUL.

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SHE WANTS TO PUT HIM
IN A CARE FACILITY,

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SAYS HAROLD WANTS IT THAT WAY.

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DOES HE?

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HE PUT IT IN HIS
ADVANCE HEALTH CARE DIRECTIVE.

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BUT I CAN STILL HANDLE HIM.

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I'M NOT SURE THIS
IS ABOUT YOU.

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HE DIDN'T WANT
TO BE A BURDEN.

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HE MADE A DECISION.

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HE CHOSE A POINT
WHERE ENOUGH IS ENOUGH.

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<i>AND IT'S YOUR JOB</i>
<i>TO LISTEN.</i>

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BUT I DON'T WANT
TO LOSE HIM, FLORA.

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I DIDN'T LOSE BILL.

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IT'S NOT THE SAME, BUT WE
SEE EACH OTHER EVERY DAY.

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SURE, WE TRIED ADULT DAY CARE,
AND THAT HELPED ME

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GET USED TO HAVING
OTHERS CARE FOR HIM.

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NOW I FEEL SO MUCH BETTER
KNOWING THAT HE'S

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IN GOOD HANDS,
THAT HE'S SAFE.

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WHERE WILL I TAKE HIM?

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DON'T WORRY.

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YOU'LL FIND THE RIGHT PLACE.

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HOW'D IT GO?

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<i>GOOD!</i>

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WE GOT A NEW MEMBER TONIGHT.

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I'M MEETING HER FOR COFFEE
THIS WEEK.

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THAT'S NICE.

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DID YOU GET
YOUR FATHER TO BED?

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MOM, I ASKED DANNY TO STAY.

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HE TOOK CARE OF IT.

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DAD'S JUST TOO MUCH
FOR ME NOW.

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ANNIE, I'M GOING TO START
LOOKING FOR A NURSING HOME.

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I DON'T KNOW HOW LONG
IT'LL TAKE,

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BUT I'D LIKE IT IF YOU'D LOOK
AT SOME PLACES WITH ME.

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I'LL DO ANYTHING TO HELP.

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I KNOW HOW HARD
THIS IS FOR YOU.

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DON'T WORRY ABOUT ME.

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IT'S WHAT HE WANTED.

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CARING FOR YOUR
LOVED ONE

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DURING THE LATE STAGE
OF DEMENTIA

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CAN BE BOTH PHYSICALLY
AND MENTALLY CHALLENGING.

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MANY FAMILIES CHOOSE
TO PUT THEIR LOVED ONE

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INTO A NURSING HOME
AT THIS STAGE.

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THERE ARE SEVERAL MATTERS
TO CONSIDER

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WHEN CHOOSING A CARE FACILITY,
SUCH AS:

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ARE THERE SUFFICIENT STAFF
TO CARE FOR ALL THE RESIDENTS?

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DO ATTENDANTS CARE FOR
THE SAME PATIENTS EVERY DAY?

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IS THERE A HISTORY OF STAFF
OR ADMINISTRATION TURNOVER?

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AND HOW ARE COMPLAINTS
OR CONCERNS DEALT WITH?

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CHECK WITH FAMILIES
OF OTHER RESIDENTS TO SEE

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IF PATIENTS GET
SATISFACTORY CARE,

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PARTICULARLY WITH
BATHROOM ASSISTANCE.

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BE SURE YOUR LOVED ONE'S DOCTOR
AND STAFF ARE TRAINED

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IN THE SPECIAL NEEDS
THAT COME WITH DEMENTIA.

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YOU ARE STILL VITAL TO
THE CARE OF YOUR LOVED ONE

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AS HIS PRIMARY ADVOCATE,
EMOTIONAL SUPPORT,

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AND SOURCE OF LOVE AND COMFORT.

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TO FIND OUT MORE ABOUT NURSING
HOMES AND CARE FACILITIES,

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CONTACT YOUR
HEALTHCARE PROFESSIONAL.